Here’s How To Get More
The number one thing people want to feel about themselves is confident. And for some, that’s a constant struggle.
Psychologists tell us confidence takes many forms, from the arrogance of professional boxing promoter, Floyd Mayweather to the quiet self-assurance of famous primatologist and anthropologist, Jane Goodall. True confidence—as opposed to the false confidence people project to mask their insecurities—has a look all its own.
When it comes to confidence, one thing is certain: truly confident people always have the upper hand over the doubtful and the skittish because they inspire others and they make things happen.
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right. —Henry Ford”
Ford’s notion that your mentality has a powerful effect on your ability to succeed is manifest in the results of a recent study at the University of Melbourne that showed that confident people went on to earn higher wages and get promoted more quickly than anyone else.
Learning to be confident is clearly important, but what is it that truly confident people do that sets them apart from everyone else.
Here are some suggestions, things that are known to increase a person’s level of self-confidence.
Identify your negative thoughts. Your negative thoughts might sound like this: “I can’t do that,” “I will surely fail”, “no one wants to hear what I have to say.” This inner voice is pessimistic and unhelpful and will hold you back from achieving high self-esteem and greater self-confidence.
Turn your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. As you pay attention to your negative thoughts, turn them around to positive thoughts. This may take the form of positive affirmations, such as “I am going to try it,” “I can be successful if I work at it,” or “people will listen to me.” Start with just a few positive thoughts a day.
Refuse to focus on negative thoughts more often than positive thoughts. Eventually, your positive thoughts should be given more “brain space” than your negative thoughts. The more you counter your negative self-thinking with positivity, the more natural this will become.
For tough times, when all else fails: Create a great list.
Life is full of challenges and there are times when it’s difficult to keep our self-confidence up. Sit down right now and make a list of all the things in your life that you are thankful for, and another list of all the things you are proud of accomplishing. Once your lists are complete, post them on your refrigerator door, on the wall by your desk, on your bathroom mirror, somewhere where you can easily be reminded of what an amazing life you have and what an amazing person you really are. If you feel your self-confidence dwindling, take a look at those lists and let yourself feel and be inspired all over again by you.
I was lucky to have been born into a family of high achievers. My father was the most confident person I ever knew. He felt he could do anything and pretty much did. And somehow, also lucky for me, a lot of that rubbed off on me. I always think that I can probably do just about whatever I set my mind to, as long as I think it through, and apply the right strategy.
In my work with small business owners in the Master-Mind Alliance, I have seen the role confidence plays in business success. Once an Alliance member starts applying better strategies and generating more success, they become different. They become more confident. You can see it on their face. They smile more. You can hear it in their voice. They project more and have more to say, more to contribute.
HERE’S THE THING. We know how to make the operation of any viable small business highly successful. It’s simple. The owner operator just had to do enough of the things that are known to work. Those things are not a secret. We talk about them and share experiences using them at each and every Master-Mind Alliance meeting.